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Life Patterns:
Changing Your Script
by Carol A. Henry
Scripts are based on beliefs. Some beliefs are positive and productive; others are negative and destructive. Because beliefs are formed early in life, it's easy to mistale them for facts.
If your parents tell you that knives are sharp enough to cut you and it proves to be true, then it only makes sense to believe them when they say that girls are no good at math.
Scripts are powerful because they are unconcious. Once in place, these early patterns of thinking, feeling and acting become automatic and we rarely stop to question them. This is why they continue to exrt such a strong influence in adult life: you can't control or change what you don't know about.
Counselors are like computer analysts who, by asking the right questions, help you print out the operating program of you life so you can see what's there and decide what you want to keep and what you want to change.
Tragic scripts end in killing yourself, killing someone else or going crazy. Counseling can identify these destructive patterns before they end in tragedy and help you re-direct your life to a more positive outcome.
Far more common are banal scripts which encourage you to trudge through life in a rut until it becomes a grave. These scripts are not destructive, but they are boring and limiting; the only options you see for your life are the same ones your parents had, so talents may lie dormant and opportunities may be missed.
A therapist can help you see all the choices available and help pick the best for you.
Changing Your Script
by Carol A. Henry
Scripts are based on beliefs. Some beliefs are positive and productive; others are negative and destructive. Because beliefs are formed early in life, it's easy to mistale them for facts.
If your parents tell you that knives are sharp enough to cut you and it proves to be true, then it only makes sense to believe them when they say that girls are no good at math.
Scripts are powerful because they are unconcious. Once in place, these early patterns of thinking, feeling and acting become automatic and we rarely stop to question them. This is why they continue to exrt such a strong influence in adult life: you can't control or change what you don't know about.
Counselors are like computer analysts who, by asking the right questions, help you print out the operating program of you life so you can see what's there and decide what you want to keep and what you want to change.
Tragic scripts end in killing yourself, killing someone else or going crazy. Counseling can identify these destructive patterns before they end in tragedy and help you re-direct your life to a more positive outcome.
Far more common are banal scripts which encourage you to trudge through life in a rut until it becomes a grave. These scripts are not destructive, but they are boring and limiting; the only options you see for your life are the same ones your parents had, so talents may lie dormant and opportunities may be missed.
A therapist can help you see all the choices available and help pick the best for you.
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Carol serves clients in the Dallas-Fort Worth area, where she works with individuals, couples, and families. She has facilitated training workshops for businesses, consciousness groups, as well as area recovery and church groups. Her counseling services include web-enabled video counseling. More information: www.carolahenry.com